2015-02-04 / Editorial & Columns

Behind the Badge

Never argue with a woman when she's tired... or when she’s rested
By Larry G. Spence

I want to talk a little bit about marriage this week, so I used the above quote to get your attention. A lot of people have plenty to say about being married, some of it is serious, then others like Rodney Dangerfield who said, "my wife and I were happy for twenty years, then we met." Ogden Nash is quoted as saying, "whenever you are wrong, admit it. Whenever you are right, shut up.

Marriages are made in heaven, but we have the responsibility for the maintenance work.

It takes two people to make a marriage work. It's so enlightening to read of couples celebrating their 50th or 60th wedding anniversary. Some marriages today don't last 50 or 60 days, let alone years Couples who don't expect to work on their relationship often have the roughest ride on the back roads of matrimony- Nobody has a perfect marriage, there will be times of disagreement. Ruth Graham, wife of Billy Graham once stated, "if two people agree on everything, then one of them is unnecessary."

Real love hardly exists outside marriage. Real love is a slow growth coming from unity of life and purpose. Love is a product created by mutual service and sacrifice, and normally this service can only exist between married people, and only if the bond is accepted as a permanent one. Love outside of marriage or before marriage is largely romantic fiction. A certain amount of passion and mutual attraction holds the possibility of love, it's a good starting point, but it would be a very weak conclusion. So all you hear about Hollywood marriages is in error because it gives the impression this weak thing is love, and that it is of primary worth, but it's a lie. In a real marriage you grow more toward each other as the years go by and more in love.

At the close of one wedding everything had gone off without a hitch, and the preacher was winding up the service by saying, "I now pronounce you man and wife." The bridegroom was so flustered however, he spoke out loud, "Isn't it kisstomary to cuss the bride?" The preacher smiled and said, "Not until you've been married a little while." I heard of one lady whose husband was in a car wreck and had to be taken to the hospital. His wife stayed outside until the doctor came out. The doctor told her, "Ma'am, I don't like the looks of your husband." She replied, "I don't either, but he's good to the kids." One more and then we will close. It seems a new husband came home one evening to find his young bride in tears. "You know the dinner I cooked for you tonight"? "The dog ate it." "Don't worry about it sweetheart," 'I'll get another dog." Not a way to start off a marriage. Well, Vicenta and I are going for number 18 this month and each year gets more interesting and fun as they go by. So send your spouse a valentine and let them know how much they mean to you. In lieu of a valentine, I accept chocolate.

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